(Pt. 2) I have a girlfriend but I’m very attracted to trans guys. I don’t even know any trans guys on a 100 mile radius. I like ftms because they look androgynous and because I feel safe around people like me. I could never be with a cis guy, I’ve tried but I get to dysphoryc and it sucks. My gf said she wants a break. If we break up I’d like to be with a trans guy but I don’t know where I’m gonna find one.”
What you’re feeling isn’t uncommon. I know lots of trans people date other trans because they feel more comfortable being with someone who is going through what they’re going through.
As far as friends go…
I had a group of “friends” back when I was seeing my ex (the first ftm I ever dated, let alone knew.) These friends would make very snide jokes in my presence, even after I had requested for them not to do it. I was on vacation with them for an entire week once, and for that week it was nonstop tranny jokes. So I can feel you on the friends issue even though I’m not trans myself..I ended up break those friendships for more reasons than one but the “tranny jokes” was a big part of that…
Being a significant other of a transperson is no walk in the park and it takes a very special type of person. Lots of understanding. Lots of patience. Your relationship with your girlfriend sounds like a standstill right now…The fact that you want to date other people shows me that you guys should probably break up for a while, possibly stay friends.
Finding other trans people can be a little difficult. Some are openly trans while others are stealth. My boyfriend is openly trans, for the most part he passes for a cismale but when he doesn’t he say and will answer questions anyone has.
Have you tried looking at fetlife.com? It’s completely free, it’s more US based but there are tons of international people on there and it grows by the day. How about theselfmademan? They have a penpal system set up for trans people as well as supporters and S/O’s.
Fuckyeahftms here on tumblr is a wonderful place to meet ftms when you need support. The blog I met Nik on is no longer in existence as far as we can tell but it was called We Love FTMS. The internet is a powerful resource, shake the LBGTQ tree and you don’t know what might fall out!
Where are you from? If you want to send just your country I could probably direct you a little bit better..