You’re loved. You’re accepted. You’re beautiful. You’re handsome. You’re strong.
You deserve happiness. You deserve to be accepted as you are, skeletons included.
Sometimes, you need to be reminded of that.
If you need a friend, I’m here.
If you need a shoulder, I’m here.
If you need a…
I’m reblogging this post again because I wanted to add on to it. I’ve been friending people who reblog this or like it. Not to be like creepy but so that way if you need someone you can talk to me.
You’re loved. You’re accepted. You’re beautiful. You’re handsome. You’re strong.
You deserve happiness. You deserve to be accepted as you are, skeletons included.
Sometimes, you need to be reminded of that.
If you need a friend, I’m here.
If you need a shoulder, I’m here.
If you need a laugh, I’m here.
If you need to talk, I’m here.
You don’t have to be alone or sink into your own thoughts.
I hope I made a difference for someone, because sometimes…we as people just need to know that someone, anyone…is there for us.
Much love everyone.
DON’T TURN TRANS* PEOPLE INTO A FETISH
Don’t assume that because we date trans* people we are fetishizing them.
^^^ This SO much. It annoys me to NO end. I like trans* people. I like dating trans* people. I have found that I actually prefer it. I see people getting accused of fetishizing trans* folk just because they’re dating, or have dated, someone trans. Last time I checked a fetish is something you need to get off. I don’t need my trans* person to get me off, I like the way my trans* person gets me off.
Please learn the difference between people genuinely attracted to a trans* person and those who see trans* folk as nothing more than exotic sexual objects.
Not so much directed entirely at the OP but I have seen this, and have been accused of it myself before, in the tags and it pisses me off.
You miss out on a lot of good people if you already decide that they don’t see you as a person before you even know them.
Ok my rants over now.
ok well here are some bookend opening statement pieces I did today (with the help of my boo) to set the stage for a piece I’m working on called “Common Misconception”.
I’m rifling through old photographs and writing about them, trying to pinpoint where exactly I realized that I didn’t quite feel like a girl and didn’t quite feel like a boy either. This kind of self-reflexive exploration is one that I’ve been doing for a while in my mind and am now trying to figure out on another level of work, visual representation, and how, just now at 20, I’m beginning to access all of these complicated, difficult gender feelings.
Yes, page 5. Everyone should at least read page 5.
Love my gf xo
An Arizona judge on Friday refused to grant a divorce for a transgender Arizona man who gave birth to three children after beginning to change his sex from female.
Maricopa County Family Court Judge Douglas Gerlach ruled that Arizona’s ban on same-sex marriages prevents Thomas Beatie’s nine-year union from being recognized as valid.
Thomas Beatie was born a woman and underwent a double-mastectomy but retained female reproductive organs and gave birth to three children.
Gerlach said he had no jurisdiction to approve a divorce because there’s insufficient evidence that Beatie was a man when he married Nancy Beatie in Hawaii.
Beatie is eager to end his marriage, but the couple’s divorce plans stalled last summer when Gerlach said he was unable to find legal authority defining a man as someone who can give birth.
“The decision here is not based on the conclusion that this case involves a same-sex marriage merely because one of the parties is a transsexual male, but instead, the decision is compelled by the fact that the parties failed to prove that (Thomas Beatie) was a transsexual male when they were issued their marriage license,” he wrote in Friday’s ruling.
Gerlach’s ruling also said it didn’t address whether Arizona law allows a person who was born female to marry another female after undergoing a sex change operation.
The National Center for Lesbian Rights, which isn’t involved in the Beatie divorce case, has said courts have declared marriages involving a transgender person invalid in a handful of cases across the country, but that those cases had different factual and legal issues than those in the Beatie case.
Thomas Beatie, known as “The Pregnant Man,” was born Tracy Lehuanani Lagondino in Oahu, Hawaii. He began testosterone treatments in 1997 and underwent double mastectomy and chest reconstruction surgery in 2002. He changed his Hawaii driver’s license to say he was a man and had a Hawaiian court approve his name change to Thomas.
Gerlach’s ruling noted that Thomas Beatie halted the testosterone treatments and that he didn’t provide documentation for any additional non-surgical efforts.
Thomas Beatie married his partner Nancy in early 2003 in Honolulu and became pregnant because Nancy was unable to have children. Thomas Beatie conceived with donated sperm and gave birth to children who are now 4, 3 and 2 years old. The couple eventually moved to Arizona.
Beatie has garnered a range of media attention, making the rounds on talk shows such as Larry King and Oprah Winfrey and winning a spot on Barbara Walters’ list of “10 Most Fascinating People” in 2008, alongside President Barack Obama, conservative commentator Rush Limbaugh and swimmer Michael Phelps. He also published a book, “Labor Of Love: The Story of One Man’s Extraordinary Pregnancy,” the cover displaying an image of a shirtless Thomas sporting facial hair and holding a hand over his bare pregnant belly.
ftm looking for friends and stuff. :)
message me on kik!
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tumblr: theinsanityinsideme
Look at this handsome man, go talk to him :3
Voting as a transgender or gender non-conforming person is very difficult and you may lose your right to vote if you don’t match the person’s perception of what your gender should be. We have a very important election coming up, use the resources from www.VotingWhileTrans.org to protect your vote!
(Pt. 2) I have a girlfriend but I’m very attracted to trans guys. I don’t even know any trans guys on a 100 mile radius. I like ftms because they look androgynous and because I feel safe around people like me. I could never be with a cis guy, I’ve tried but I get to dysphoryc and it sucks. My gf said she wants a break. If we break up I’d like to be with a trans guy but I don’t know where I’m gonna find one.”
What you’re feeling isn’t uncommon. I know lots of trans people date other trans because they feel more comfortable being with someone who is going through what they’re going through.
As far as friends go…
I had a group of “friends” back when I was seeing my ex (the first ftm I ever dated, let alone knew.) These friends would make very snide jokes in my presence, even after I had requested for them not to do it. I was on vacation with them for an entire week once, and for that week it was nonstop tranny jokes. So I can feel you on the friends issue even though I’m not trans myself..I ended up break those friendships for more reasons than one but the “tranny jokes” was a big part of that…
Being a significant other of a transperson is no walk in the park and it takes a very special type of person. Lots of understanding. Lots of patience. Your relationship with your girlfriend sounds like a standstill right now…The fact that you want to date other people shows me that you guys should probably break up for a while, possibly stay friends.
Finding other trans people can be a little difficult. Some are openly trans while others are stealth. My boyfriend is openly trans, for the most part he passes for a cismale but when he doesn’t he say and will answer questions anyone has.
Have you tried looking at fetlife.com? It’s completely free, it’s more US based but there are tons of international people on there and it grows by the day. How about theselfmademan? They have a penpal system set up for trans people as well as supporters and S/O’s.
Fuckyeahftms here on tumblr is a wonderful place to meet ftms when you need support. The blog I met Nik on is no longer in existence as far as we can tell but it was called We Love FTMS. The internet is a powerful resource, shake the LBGTQ tree and you don’t know what might fall out!
Where are you from? If you want to send just your country I could probably direct you a little bit better..
As promised:
The first photo I am 3 months pre-T.
Second photo I am 1 year 7 months on testosterone + dedicated lifting and eating plan.
holy shit man
Sean Dorsey
“Sean Dorsey is an award-winning choreographer, writer and dancer. Celebrated as the nation’s first out transgender modern dance choreographer, Dorsey has won audiences from San Francisco to New York with his powerful dances that provide a window into transgender and queer experience. Dorsey is also the founder and Artistic Director of Fresh Meat Productions, the nation’s first transgender arts nonprofit creating, presenting and touring year-round transgender arts programs.”
It’s especially ironic to hear it coming from a group that prides itself on being understanding and accepting.
(Source: relativelyethical)
Davian: Relationships/Partners Sexual Orientation