frecklesxlace:

You’re loved. You’re accepted. You’re beautiful. You’re handsome. You’re strong.

You deserve happiness. You deserve to be accepted as you are, skeletons included.

Sometimes, you need to be reminded of that.

If you need a friend, I’m here.

If you need a shoulder, I’m here.

If you need a…

I’m reblogging this post again because I wanted to add on to it. I’ve been friending people who reblog this or like it.  Not to be like creepy but so that way if you need someone you can talk to me. 

runawaygay:

princepup:

DON’T TURN TRANS* PEOPLE INTO A FETISH

Don’t assume that because we date trans* people we are fetishizing them.

^^^ This SO much. It annoys me to NO end. I like trans* people. I like dating trans* people. I have found that I actually prefer it. I see people getting accused of fetishizing trans* folk just because they’re dating, or have dated, someone trans. Last time I checked a fetish is something you need to get off. I don’t need my trans* person to get me off, I like the way my trans* person gets me off.

Please learn the difference between people genuinely attracted to a trans* person and those who see trans* folk as nothing more than exotic sexual objects.

Not so much directed entirely at the OP but I have seen this, and have been accused of it myself before, in the tags and it pisses me off. 

You miss out on a lot of good people if you already decide that they don’t see you as a person before you even know them. 

Ok my rants over now.

transqueery:

An Arizona judge on Friday refused to grant a divorce for a transgender Arizona man who gave birth to three children after beginning to change his sex from female.

Maricopa County Family Court Judge Douglas Gerlach ruled that Arizona’s ban on same-sex marriages prevents Thomas Beatie’s nine-year union from being recognized as valid.

Thomas Beatie was born a woman and underwent a double-mastectomy but retained female reproductive organs and gave birth to three children.

Gerlach said he had no jurisdiction to approve a divorce because there’s insufficient evidence that Beatie was a man when he married Nancy Beatie in Hawaii.

Beatie is eager to end his marriage, but the couple’s divorce plans stalled last summer when Gerlach said he was unable to find legal authority defining a man as someone who can give birth.

“The decision here is not based on the conclusion that this case involves a same-sex marriage merely because one of the parties is a transsexual male, but instead, the decision is compelled by the fact that the parties failed to prove that (Thomas Beatie) was a transsexual male when they were issued their marriage license,” he wrote in Friday’s ruling.

Gerlach’s ruling also said it didn’t address whether Arizona law allows a person who was born female to marry another female after undergoing a sex change operation.

The National Center for Lesbian Rights, which isn’t involved in the Beatie divorce case, has said courts have declared marriages involving a transgender person invalid in a handful of cases across the country, but that those cases had different factual and legal issues than those in the Beatie case.

Thomas Beatie, known as “The Pregnant Man,” was born Tracy Lehuanani Lagondino in Oahu, Hawaii. He began testosterone treatments in 1997 and underwent double mastectomy and chest reconstruction surgery in 2002. He changed his Hawaii driver’s license to say he was a man and had a Hawaiian court approve his name change to Thomas.

Gerlach’s ruling noted that Thomas Beatie halted the testosterone treatments and that he didn’t provide documentation for any additional non-surgical efforts.

Thomas Beatie married his partner Nancy in early 2003 in Honolulu and became pregnant because Nancy was unable to have children. Thomas Beatie conceived with donated sperm and gave birth to children who are now 4, 3 and 2 years old. The couple eventually moved to Arizona.

Beatie has garnered a range of media attention, making the rounds on talk shows such as Larry King and Oprah Winfrey and winning a spot on Barbara Walters’ list of “10 Most Fascinating People” in 2008, alongside President Barack Obama, conservative commentator Rush Limbaugh and swimmer Michael Phelps. He also published a book, “Labor Of Love: The Story of One Man’s Extraordinary Pregnancy,” the cover displaying an image of a shirtless Thomas sporting facial hair and holding a hand over his bare pregnant belly.

zmizet:

tip: posting a photo of a transgender person and writing “they’re still hot THOUGH”

THOUGH

is rude 

just say they’re hot. not a big deal.

That has probably been my biggest pet peeves. People need to stop talking about transgender people with an asterix (sp?) and just talk about them.

-They’re still hot though*

  *though they were born a different biological gender than they are now.

NO

-She’s a beautiful lady/He’s a handsome man NOW*

  *Now that they went through a huge amount of surgery and pain not to achieve the look they desired and now make me feel comfortable with the fact that the finally match what they say.

NO

They are always handsome. They are always beautiful. Transgender folk have enough issue with their own dysphoria trying to rip them apart internally they don’t need you to be an outside voice.

He is a handsome man.

She is a beautiful woman.

This person doesn’t identify with either or both genders but damn they’re fine.

I don’t walk up to some girl and go “Oh you cut your hair…you’re still hot though.” It’s like a backhanded compliment 

transparrotfishsignificantother:

[Image Description: Background is alternating triangles of black and grey-blue. A parrot-fish looks off to the right in the center. 

 Top Text: “people acting like dating your partner.’”

Bottom Text: “is an act of charity.”]

“who could ~willingly want to date a trans person?”

“You’re so open-minded and sweet!”

“oh wow, that must be so hard for you! How do you deal with it? You must be a saint.”

transqueery:

Teachers and staff at Yountville Elementary School are working to combat bullying by receiving training in children’s gender identity issues.

School employees received training earlier this year from Gender Spectrum, a group that provides education and support to create inclusive environments for all children and teens.

Gender identity refers to one’s personal conception of being male or female. Some people also consider themselves to be both male and female or, sometimes, neither gender.

The one-day training cost $407 and was paid for through the school’s community donations account. A follow-up training for Yountville’s teachers will be scheduled later this year.

Principal Tara Bianchi, who has discretion over the community donations account, said the purpose of the trainings is to create a safer school community.

“The training for staff is to help us in supporting students and making our campus more sensitive to students, no matter where they fall on the gender spectrum,” she said.

Dr. Louise Greenspan, a pediatric endocrinologist at Kaiser Permanente San Francisco who is not involved in the Yountville training, said many children fall into different places on the gender spectrum. On one end of the spectrum, for example, are boys who identify themselves as boys. On the opposite end of the spectrum are boys who identify as girls.

Children who fall into the middle of the gender spectrum are considered “gender nonconforming,” which has more to do with gender roles and behavior, Greenspan said. A boy who is gender nonconforming, for example, may like to play with dolls and dress up like a princess.

Greenspan said most kids start recognizing their own gender between the ages of 2 and 3.

“Ask a typical 2- to 3-year-old if they’re a boy or a girl, and they’ll know,” Greenspan said.

Sometimes children will identify as a gender different from their biological sex. Children who are fully transgendered often feel uncomfortable in their own bodies, Greenspan said.

“It would be like having a birth defect,” she said.

A transgendered child entering puberty has a high risk of developing depression and other mental health problems, especially if they don’t feel accepted by their peers, Greenspan said. For some kids, this can lead to problems including eating disorders or even suicide.

Bianchi did not cite any specific incidents of gender-related bullying at Yountville Elementary, but she said sensitivity to gender identification is an area that all schools can improve in.

Ian Stanley, the Napa LGBTQ Project program director, agreed that schools should be places where all children feel secure.

“If students feel welcome at school, they are more likely to feel part of school programs, more likely to connect with teachers and staff, and ultimately more likely to achieve higher academically,” Stanley said.

The Napa LGBTQ Project works with schools across Napa County to support safer campuses. They are not part of the Gender Spectrum group working with Yountville Elementary.

Stanley said it is “critical to note” that, at the younger grade levels, gender identity is not about sexual preferences.

“Generally at the elementary school level we are simply talking about family, respect, and increasing understanding across diversity or difference,” Stanley said.

boxersandbinders:

Voting as a transgender or gender non-conforming person is very difficult and you may lose your right to vote if you don’t match the person’s perception of what your gender should be. We have a very important election coming up, use the resources from www.VotingWhileTrans.org to protect your vote!

(Source: lacigreen)

transboiswagger:

butchbikinikill:

As promised:

The first photo I am 3 months pre-T.

Second photo I am 1 year 7 months on testosterone + dedicated lifting and eating plan.

holy shit man

transswag:

Davian: Relationships/Partners Sexual Orientation

transqueery:

Trans United for Obama

It can be hard. Not only do you have to deal with your normal relationship issues that people these days have but you also have other issues to deal with. Dysphoria, how it rears its ugly head at times. I can relate to a point due to my own body dysmorphia but even still I know I cannot truly understand what my partner is going through.

I want desperately to make my partner happy. I want him to look into the mirror and even though his dysphoria claws at him in the shadows, I want him to be happy as he can be. I hate that he thinks so little of himself. I hate that wonders why I’m with him.

I know that right now the world is cruel and science just isn’t there to give him what he needs, the body of a man. I try my best to be encouraging and sometimes I know I come off a little hard. I want him happy as possible though.

You see my significant other, my boyfriend, my love, he’s a transgender man but even in the world of transmen he’s not the norm. He wants a male body, he prefers to be referred to by male pronouns, and for all intents and purposes he identifies as male…but sometimes he identifies as agender, meaning not one gender or the other. This happens especially when his dysphoria is acting up.

He broods a lot and he wallows. I’m proud of him for the little steps that he’s taken. He says I make him a better man, I make him want to be a better man. I still want him to push himself. Because of his dysphoria and some very bad experiences he does the bare minimum to get by in life: he goes to work, comes home, occasionally hangs out with friends, talks to me. Rinse, wash, repeat. I told him I wanted him to stop talking about things that he wants to do and to start doing them. I told him I wanted him to start up a hobby again. I know how important it is to him to lose weight for the eventual top surgery he wants to have. To buy smaller binders. To buy proper fitting STP and harness.

I love him but I won’t let him just let life pass him by, he needs to live it. I won’t let his dysphoria get in the way of that.

When being a trans* significant other you have to be their rock sometimes. You have to remind them that you see without glasses of dysphoria. You have to remind them that they can’t wallow. You need to be supporting, smiles, and loving. It’s not an easy relationship. It’s not a simple relationship to have. To be a trans s/o can be extremely difficult. I know that I’m the kind of person that can give my transman the kind of love he needs. The kind he deserves. But I know it’s not an easy path to walk sometimes.

I love my trans* significant other.

He loves me with everything he has and the relationship I have with him is the best I’ve ever experienced.

quinlan-skyler:

iamtheoutlier:

johncallmeacab:

cjshark:

Today my sister watched me put on my binder before I went to school.
She asked me if it hurt. I said sometimes, and showed her some of my bruises from it.
She asked me why I do it, I said because it makes me feel human.
She said, “At least you’re not an alien.”
“But I am an alien. In my own body. I don’t see myself as you see me. To me these things aren’t here,” I replied pointing to my chest.
I went to school. I just got home, took off my binder, and saw a piece of paper sticking out from my pillow. I moved my pillow and found this.
Can I just be honest and say I have the sweetest little sister in the world and that she has completely made me bawl my eyes out.
Thank you so, so much little sis. And yes, every penny counts.
I love you, kiddo. More than anything.

oh my god. so sweet!

that’s adorable.

omg I cried lol.